Children annoying each other

Written by: Samira Haleemzai

Children are naturally playful and their mood and habits are changing at different stages of life. Some are calm and play with other children happily and without annoyance. But there may be a few children who annoy their friends and classmates, such children create problems for themselves, their families, and their peers.

AEPO’s writer/producer has talked to some people regarding this issue.

"I used to bother children on the street and at school while playing," says Khaibar, a ninth-grade student in Kabul's Shakar Dara district. He adds, “I would push one, slap the other, and then they would not let me play with them, and I would feel lonely.”

Ahmad Zubair, an eleventh-grade student of one Kabul school says, “I was used to annoying my classmates. One day I was playing football at school with other boys, and I got into a fight with another boy. I hit him; blood came from his mouth and nose. His whole family came to our house to complain and fought with our family. Both families were upset for a long time.”

What do some people think about the causes of this issue?

A girl from Laghman province says, “Children often learn violence from their parents and the children do the same with their peers.”
Dunia, a resident of Paktia province says, “Some parents pay no attention to their children's behavior outside the home with other children. Children cannot distinguish well from wrong. In addition, some children enjoy bullying other children and eventually become accustomed to doing so.”

How do some people find solutions to this issue?

Psychologist, Karima Dariz says, “One of the main reasons for this issue is the beating of children at home. When parents beat or harass their children, children learn from them.

Another reason is watching cartoons and violent movies on TV or the screen of mobile phones and other devices.

Some children want to show they are stronger, they beat or frighten other children while playing.

Some families also encourage their children to scare other children."
How do some people find a solution to this issue?

Muhammad Masoom Hotak, a resident of Kabul city says, “I am the father of four children. My oldest child sometimes quarrels with other boys. A day before today, he fought with another boy. First I advised him and talked about the disadvantages of quarrels and harassment and then I talked to the family of the other boy and I wanted them to talk to their son too.

If I and my wife have an issue to discuss, and any of my children are at home, I suggest my wife discuss it sometime else.”

A woman from Paktia province says, “I am also the mother of a child. He always harasses other children, One day we went to a park, and my child beat another child.

I did not say anything to my child in front of the other children. When we got back home, I told him that other children are all his friends and peers and he should not fight with them; because if he bothers them, then he will lose all his friends and no one will play with him. He has no longer bothered children afterward.”

Karima Dariz says, “Families have the responsibility to have complete control over their children's that how they treat other children outside the home. Try to make them watch more emotional, not violent cartoons and movies. They should know that beating and cursing other children cause them to be alone and that one day someone else will also beat them as well.”