Preventing Women from their Parents’ homes

 Written by: Mir Aqa Itebar

Every girl is willing to go to her father's home after marriage and visit her parents some father-in-laws’ families prevent their brides from going to their parent's homes and this might create some problems.

AEPO’s writer/producer has talked to some women about this issue.

Shakila says, “When I want to go to my father’s home for visiting my parents, my husband doesn’t let me go and even he beats me and I have no choice without crying the whole night.”

Mastora says, “I have not gone to my father’s home for about 6 years, even when my father passed away,  my father-in-law’s family did not let go to my father’s funeral. If my husband lets me go to my parent’s home, my mother-in-law and other members of my husband’s  family do not let me and badly beat me.”

What do some women think about the causes of preventing women from going to their parents’ homes?

Noor Bibi says, “The members of my father-in-law’s family members did not let me go to my father’s home and visit them. They were accusing me that if I go to my father’s home, I might find a boyfriend, and sometimes they thought that I was stealing from them and take them to father’s home.”

Razia says, “My father-in-law’s house members are all illiterate and they are not aware of Islamic regulations nor women's rights and whenever I want to go out, they think wrong about me.”

How do some women have found a solution to this issue?

A mother says, “It is the fourth month of my son’s marriage and his wife has visited her family three times in the past three months and every time, she has spent 10-15 days with her parents. My son gives a reason that when his father was not letting me go to my father’s home, I was very sad.  Now he doesn’t want to happen the same to his wife and he never prevents his wife from going to his father’s home and visiting other relatives.”

Another mother says, “When I got married, I was always oppressing in my father-in-law’s home and they were never letting me go to my father’s home and visit my parents. When my son wanted me to find a match for him, I told him that if he oppresses his wife as his father did, I would never go for his proposal. My son promised that he would never  prevent his from going to her parent’s home and now he has a very.