Interference in the family affairs of others
Written by: Samira Haleemzai
Most families in Afghanistan live together. Sometimes their numbers reach up to 20-30 person in one single family. They are more in touch with their friends and relatives and help each other in joy and sorrow. But sometimes there are those among them who, by interfering in the lives of others, darken their relationships. AEPO’s writer/producer has talked to some people about the causes and solution of this issue.
Nisfa Ahmadzai, a resident of Paktia province says, “The wife of my uncle and my aunt was interfering with our house affair and they caused a big problem in our family. My father wanted them to not interfere anymore. Now we have cut our relation with them.”
Nazifa, a resident of Kabul city says, “My cousin has the bad habit of interference in others’ family affairs. When he was coming to our home, he was asking me why I wear this kind of dress or he was preventing us from going to school and educational courses. Once he blamed me for wear an unsuitable dress. This issue caused my family members reaction and they prevented him from coming to our home.”
What do people think about the causes of this issue?
Nisfa says, “It is our fault that we allow such people to interfere in our family affairs and some people have the habit of interfering in others affairs.”
Abdul Jabar, a resident of Kabul province says, “The main reason of interference in others affairs is our ignorance that we allow others to interfere our family affairs and this interference causes big problems to some families.”
How do some people find a solution to this issue?
Atifa Barati, a resident of Kabul city says, “I never interfere in others affairs and if someone asks my opinion, then I share it with her/him. As I do not interfere in other family affairs so that I do not let others interfere in our family affairs too.”
What does Islam say about this issue?
Professor Sayed Muhammad Amin Hashim says, “Protecting the honor and dignity of others is one of the bases of Islam. Islam commands people to not interfere in other private affairs. Our prophet Muhammad PBUH says, “If you see someone’s faults, hide them. If you do so, almighty Allah will cover up your faults.”