Anger Among Children
Written by: Naqeeb Ahmad Azizi
Those families who have more than one child, their children play together and pass their time happily, but sometimes children are fighting with each other and create problems.
AEPO’s writer/producer has talked to some people about this issue.
A chid, Muhammad Yasir, a resident of Maidan-Wardak province says: “my friend, Anas slapped me on my face and I hit him then a fight took place between us and I tore his clothes too.”
A mother says: “I have 7 kids and they always fight among themselves and they annoy me.”
A psychologist, Professor Zuhra Waleed Rahmani says: “For one reason or another, many children are not learning the problem-solving skills they need in order to avoid getting into a physical fight. As a result, they develop ineffective coping skills .the first issue of child fight is damning and hurting each other. They might face psychological problems. They lose confidence in each other. If a parent loves one, the other child might hate his/her parent for this reason. When these children get young, their children might hate their uncle’s children and this issue might cause violence and they fight with each other. These children could not learn about their school lesson well.”
What do people think about the causes of children to fight?
A father, Muhammad Zaman says: “fight among children often occurs during breakfast, lunch or dinner time or if we gift something to one of them, the other gets angry.”
A girl, Haya Selai says: “when one of my brothers takes a toy of the other, they fight with each other.”
Aslam, a resident of Maidan-Wardak province says: “my son has a bicycle and my nephew wanted him to give the bicycle to him but he did not accept and they fought with each other.”
Professor Rahmani says: “ Negative attention is better than no attention. the parent should treat everyone equally. Kids watch how adults behave and act when they are fighting with each other. When a parent gives something to one child but nothing to the other, they might fight with each other.
How people solve this issue?
A father says: “I always try to bring the same toy to each child and if they fight with each other, I solve the issue by talking to them peacefully.”
Professor Zuhra Rahmani says: “the parents should find the causes of their children’s fight and they should talk to each of them individually. If the parents have bad behavior with their children, they have to change their attitude.”