Parental Impatience toward Children’s Mistakes

    Written by: mir Aqa Etibar

The parents’ happiness is linked to their children’s happiness. When a child is playing, his/her parents are happy and if a child breaks something, this issue causes some parents to take happiness from the child. The impatience of parents might create some problems.

 AEPO’s writer/producer has talked to some people about this issue.

Hikmatullah, a resident of Hoodkhel, district 9th of Kabul city says: “one day while I was playing cricket, the ball caused to break a glass of our house. When my father came home, he badly beat me. I think that glass has more value than me for my father.”

Muneer Nisar, a professor of psychology in one of the universities in Kabul city says: “Violence against children creates problems for the entire family, especially for the children. They might think poor themselves in front of others and some of them might face anxiety and loses self-confidence. They could not express their views in the class; in a group of people or in the community, and when they grow up, they might not be able to decide about any event that they might face with it.”

Manizha Quraishi, a resident of Ghazni province says: “as my father had come back from the job and he was very tired, he could not tolerate our playing, then he beat us.”

Sadruddin, a resident of Samangan province says: “children always make mistakes and sometimes a quarrel might take place between them. The parents have to teach them the right way by slipping on their face.”

Professor Nisar says: “There are two principles: one is the environment, friends, and relatives that cause parents to badly behave their children, and the second principle is that such parents have faced the same violence in the past from their parents."

How do people solve this issue?

A father, Farmarz Miakhel, a resident of Sarobi district, Kabul province says: “one day we have guests in our home. My children together with the children of our guests broke the glass of my car but I did not threaten them. I gave them some money to go to the shop and buy something for themselves and I forgot what they had done.”

Professor Nisar says: “Parents could attend workshops, seminars and other related sessions held in the provinces and districts and learn how to behave their children. When the parents get angry, they could drink a glass of cold water; take a bath; count rosary beads or tear a piece of paper and control their angers.”