Children Lie

Written by: Mir Aqa Etibar

Lying is considered immoral and everyone knows that lying is bad behavior, but most people lie. Lying destroys social relations. There are many reasons for lying, but one of the main reasons is lying in childhood, which a person becomes accustomed to it in childhood.

AEPO’s writer/producer has talked about the impact of children lying on their personality and social life in the future.

Shahin, a resident of Kabul city says, “I have lied a lot, but once I was talking to my friend on my mobile phone. He asked me that where I am. I lied to him that I am somewhere far away while he was walking in front of me and asked me that why I lied to him. I was very embarrassed.”

Barakatullah, a resident of Kabul city says, “I had gone to Jalalabad city, Nangarhar province about some days ago. My small brother, whom I love more, called me that he is injured in a car accident.

It was 8 pm and the security situation was not convenient in our district but I had to come home. I paid four times more fare to a car and when I reached home, it was 11 pm and my brother was all right and he had lied to me.”

A psychologist, Professor Karima Dariz talks about this issue, “Children might face many problems in the future for lying. They think that everyone is a liar, and they do not believe the truth.

When they get used to lying, no one trusts them. Maybe one day their lies will be proven, that day will be a day of disgrace for them. Children who lie are insulted and humiliated in society; people would not trust them.”

What do some people think about the causes of children lie?

Riazgul, a resident of Paktia province says, “There are different reasons why children get used to lying. One of them is parents' lack of awareness of the consequences of lying, and also some children learn to lie from the TV drama serials.”

Jan Aqa, a resident of Kapisa province says, “My son was thinking that I know nothing about him and whatever he says, I would accept his lying.”
Professor Dariz says, “There are various reasons for children to lie.

One of them is that children want to attract the attention that everyone loves and to be proud of having such children, and such children are always accustomed to lying. If a mother wants her son to study his school lessons and as the son is bored, he pretends that he is sick and they get used to lying.”

How do some people solve this issue?

Manzor Ahmad, a resident of Kabul city says, “We have many children in our family. We try not to lie among ourselves. We prevent our children to play with rude children. We always tell them about the bad consequences of lying and encourage them to tell the truth.”

Professor Karima Dariz says, “When your child makes a mistake, you have to convince him/her not to cover up the truth by lying. It is better to stop beating and threatening and let him/her know that he/she has not done a good job. If your child accepts his/her mistake, you should thank him for his honesty and courage him/her more for telling truth."