Uninvited Guest

Written by: Awesta Fazli

All Afghans are hospitable and they like to have guests but some guests take some of their friends to the feast or invitation. This issue sometimes might cause some problems for the host.

AEPO’s writer/producer has talked to some people about this issue.

 Noorzia, a resident of Kabul city says, “When I graduated from university, I prepared a feast for my five close friends but they had taken their friends with them too. As I was alone at home, I was not able to prepare more foods and I could not provide a good service for them.”

Hadia, a resident of Kunduz province says, “Once my sister father-in-law’s family was bringing Nawrozi (New Year gifts) for my sister and we had to prepare lunch for them. We asked about the number of guests. They replied that the number of gusts would not exceed more than 22 guests but they came 40 people. This issue faced us with problems.”

What do some people think about the causes of this issue?

 Noorzia says, “I think some people want to test others that if they could prepare dishes for more guests and some other might want to embarrass someone in front of others.”

Najeebullah Saraj, a resident of Baghlan province says, “We don’t care if the number of guests increases a little. For example, if we invite 3 people and they come 4 of 5, it doesn’t make a big difference but if we invite 3 persons and they come about 8 or more than that, the host might face some problems and he/she would not be able to host a good party. Last Eid’s day, my uncle called us that he and his wife will come to our home for dinner. We prepared food for 3 guests but they came 8 people and we had to prepare extra food for them.”

How some people find a solution to this issue?

Noorzia says, “The best solution is that we should avoid inviting such guests again and if we invite some guests for a feast, we should prepare more food than the exact number of the gusts.”

Rafiullah, a resident of Kabul city says, “We should improve our mistakes first. If we are invited 3 people to a party, we should not take extra guests with us and others also should pay attention to the point as well.”