Children without Violence

  Written by: Samira Haleemzai

There is a great concern about the incidence of violent behavior among children. This issue needs to be carefully understood by parents, teachers, and other people otherwise these children might cause various problems to their families and community.

 AEPO’s writer/producer has talked to some children and other people about this issue.

Zahra Amini, a teacher at one of the schools in Kabul city says, “I am the mother of five children. My youngest son is very violent at home. He always has bad behavior with others even with his father. He always quarrels at home. Once he had beaten his classmate and had broken his head and the boy’s family came to our home and

complained to us.”

A child, Sediqa, a resident of Chaharasiab district, Kabul province says, “I always get angry. Once I quarreled with my brother and I had a stick and I injured my head with it and my father took me to the clinic.”

A psychologist, professor Abdul Jalil says, “When violent children get angry, they cannot control their anger, and hurt themselves. Their self-confidence is low or they might not have self-confidence. They cannot control their talking. They also have problems in their school lessons and they have not the ability to talk in the classroom. They are always jealous of their other classmates. These habits might cause problems to their families as well as to the community.”

What do some people think about the causes of growing up children with violence?
Muqadas, a resident of Qarabagh district, Kabul city says, “Some parents encourage their child to beat other child and this manner causes the child to grow up with violence. Some parents do know about their children’s friends and what are they doing in their schools.”

Kamil Khan, a resident of Kabul city says, “Parents violence and violent friends directly affect on child and he/she also grows up with violence.”

Professor Abdul Jalil says, “If parents quarrel among themselves at home, their children also learn and imitate from them and grow up with violence.”

How do people find solutions for this issue?

Khan Muhammad, a resident of Kabul city says, “I have three daughters and one son. I always monitor my son’s activities and know his friends. When I found out that some of my son’s classmates have bad behavior, I transferred the school of my son. Now my son has good behavior at home and outside of the home.”

Muqadas Khan says, “I am the father of five children. To prevent them from violence, I always bring them storybooks and they learn kindness from the stories instead of violence.”

Professor Abdul Jalil says, “Whenever parents consider violent behavior from their children, they should immediately arrange for a comprehensive evaluation by a psychologist. The goals of treatment typically focus on helping the child to: learn how to control his/her anger; be responsible for his/her actions; and accept consequences. Besides, family conflicts, school problems, and community issues must be addressed.